Meet the Sad Wives of AI

Anonasty

The article highlights an actual issue. It sure feels like dotcom boom again (kids don't remember)... Everything is buzzing and demanding to be on the edge. Everything is developing except the real world us.

wannabe44

Is this satire? Difficult to tell in this age where "women find things to blame" is a genre of prose.

tomaytotomato

I read it (even the snobby bits bragging about drinking orange wine). Are these people for real, or is silicon valley in some double bubble of middle class techno elitist hell of their own making? Nobody comes out well in that article, the husbands, the wives, the partners, the social circles. I am British, I use AI, I love it, but I switch off and talk about tidying up the garden or doing stuff with my wife. Yes AI is flavour of the last few years but it hasn't chopped up my carrots for me, or sprayed weed killer on my monoblock driveway. Going to just leave this whole story with a pinch of salt.

ablation

So disconnected from reality as to be difficult to ascertain whether this is satirical fiction.

kondu

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Brendinooo

I'll be forthright here. I've realized over time that I don't live the most...focused, goal-oriented life; a lot of what I decide to do is constrained by what I can or cannot do. If I don't have the money, I don't do the thing. If I do and someone asks, or I'm feeling a little impulsive, I will. In the digital world, there was a ton of stuff I was interested in doing but was unable to accomplish, either because I didn't have the technical knowledge or the time to do it. AI makes you feel like anything is possible! A lot of people aren't used to the mental model of "having a team of people who can do stuff for you", and there's definitely a way we can get lost in that. I'm thankful I have a wife that drags me out of my office enough that I think I've reasonably kept in touch with reality, ha.

Bengalilol

Hey, that guy should ask Claude about the future developments of his relationship given how disconnected he is. And then his wife will be able to shout that awful and cold "Wow, looook at that!" Special note to anyone thinking alterity is useless in the AI era.

Hendrikto

> He desperately wants to work in AI—or feels he must work in AI—and she wants him to do literally anything else. > Either way, the men go in and the women want out. Why make this about gender?

marcyb5st

Wifes of people working on AI and living in the epicenter of AI feel like AI in a country where a lot of people define their life based on how successful are at work feel like AI is talk is intruding in their private lives? Ironically it feels like an article that mentions AI to ride the AI-wave that it is the source of the bad things it talks about...

pjc50

This is a sub-variant of "phone addiction", isn't it. Or maybe just "guy is really, really into hobby to obsessional levels, to the detriment of the rest of his life". A pattern that pre-dates computers.

throwthrowuknow

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lz400

I didn't read everything but the article didn't seem to give any details about what's special about AI vs any other obsession anyone might have. If anything, I think it applies more to things like videogames or social networks, I feel they're more addictive and demanding of your time.

phillennium

I work remotely and use the 5-hour limits as a way to avoid AI addiction, seeing them as the world giving a sign to touch grass, be with the wife and so on. This way, they feel more of a blessing than a curse.

fxwin

What a weird article > I should also say I didn’t bother speaking to any of the actual husbands for this story. I’m sick of hearing from the men of AI. That's quite a line after half a page of inferring said men's inner workings and motivations from what their wives and their wives' therapists say about them (quite cynically i might add) > A tiktok meme has been making the rounds recently: young women at their laptops or doing their makeup, captioned something like, “Working so hard so my man can work on his AI startup that loses $30K a month.” The comments section stands in solidarity: “I’m ded.” “Yas queen.” “Just so he can have ‘founder’ in his bio.” I tried to reach out to some of these women. None bit. That might be because this person doesn't even exist, or at least it's not the people making these tiktok memes Most if not all of this just reads like generic "SF tech worker riding the hype of current technology XYZ", slotted into the social media mainstream "AI ruins everything"-sentiment. Not sure what the point of this is. > The responses are generally uninspiring. How ironic. Writing this entire article and harping on about how the AI Boom is "doing to family dynamics" and how it's "potentially destroying families" via fathers, with barely one paragraph even remotely touching the subject of people getting emotional advice or attachment from chatbots (see r/myboyfriendisai) just comes off as misandrist to me. Edit: I was curious who the author was, so i clicked around her socials a bit. among the publications she says she worked at, there is ~one piece of media she published in the last 8 years (this one), and the podcast/studio she cofounded/hosts averages ~30 youtube views per episode. > And then, the men. Neither of my friends’ husbands actually makes money from AI. Not yet. But yes. "The men".

kstenerud

Yup, this is definitely the latest gold rush. And there will be a lot of losers and some winners, just like every other time. And anyone who feels the floor being taken out from under them will feel the pressure to join the gold rush, just like every other time. And it's going to put unnatural pressures on relationships and families, and even destroy a lot of them, just like every other time. And people will feel resentful and alone and confused, and say that things shouldn't be this way - it's not fair the way things are and where they're going. Just like every other time. My sympathies go with those who are suffering under this, but when forces beyond your control are threatening your livelihood, you do what you must and hope for the best. And when there is a gold rush going on, be the one selling the shovels.

latexr

It’s equally sad and predictable that this article got flagged. Piece of advice: refusing to look at our own problems does not make them go away. If you hope to ever get better, you have to first recognise the issue then be willing to admit your faults. Only then can we proceed to better ourselves.

konart

What does it has to do with AI? A man has a bady, a wife, a job and a few hobbies. A ideally a responsible guy (whey the baby is born) confirms with himself that he will sacrifice something for some time. Him not being able to may be a problem, but this has nothing to do with AI. Could have been a bottle, an instrument or a "Halo night with friends" That not "sad wives of AI". It's "say wives of dudes who can't really understand or accept their role yet". And the only (and best) thing a woman can do is to have a serious talk. Coming from a father of a 4 y.o.

xolox

I think 90% of this article is not actually about AI at all, but about how obsessive workaholic behavior can ruin relationships. The article itself notes how AI is just the latest bubble or hype in a long line of previous ones. The only actual relevance of AI is that some of the "sad wives of AI" are using AI to rubberduck how bad their situation is, which only receives validation, because of AI sycophancy, leading to situations like cheating on the marriage as an escape from the bad situation (which itself makes the situation worse, not better).

pmdr

> "Neither of my friends’ husbands actually makes money from AI." That's a pain point many will recognize, and it will probably never go away. Spousal neglect can become a problem. But at the same time wives don't have some innate ability to detect a bubble. They're also critical of their husbands for being driven enough to fight for a better life for the whole family.

geekgod382

Yesterday morning I was thinking about building a god tier language which will break the internet. I spent hours thinking and designing it, only to end up realising that something which takes huge teams years to build cannot be done alone. Although I learnt many new things, but the inspiration was gone with the realisation. How much better it would have been if I had spent that time with friends and enjoyed the real world. My social life is trash, and maybe spending hours on my laptop is the reason behind it.